"Get over yourself..
You are completely delusional, there is no point in talking to someone that messed up and narrow-minded. Clearly you are so invested in 'gay culture' (your version of it) that you dont even know what the real world looks like any more.
You keep saying im avoiding gay culture then dont define what it is, even though ive already said i dont avoid it, only the club culture. As i said this magasine has it wrong, but no less wrong than you." —JUSTME, perpetual commentator
JustMe is probably like you and me. On occasion he feels the need to comment on a post found on a popular gay blog. Initially, comments address the story at hand, and then rather quickly dissolve into a tirade of personal attacks. Like a boxer, the writer retreats to his corner for a time, to read the follow-up comments, and then returns with a right upper cut to the jaw, wham! Take that you ignoramus. And it can go on and on...
There was a time, years ago back in the time when trees were turned into paper and paper made magazines, that people would write a "letter to the editor". A gay magazine might receive on a good month, a hundred letters. Hand or type written, these letters would express some feeling about a story in a recent issue and they would, after a little help from an editor, be published.
INTER(RE)ACTIVE Then came the Internet and everything changed. Magazines essentially went the way of the dinosaur, saving hundreds of trees. Born in this era was something with the unpleasant name of a blog, a contraction of the words web log. They were journals, diaries, notes on one's existence, favoring images and texts that allowed one into the mind of the writer. A handsome 36-year-old named Andy Towle wrote one such blog, Towleroad, which emerged in 2003. It began like most blogs as a diary of Andy's life featuring short videos (shot by Andy) and observations on his life. For example, in November 2003, Mr Towle was discussing his first encounter with the drink, Absinthe, even giving direction on how to prepare the drink. Another entry shows Mr Towle being kissed by a rather attractive young man. It was personal.
In 2005, David Hauslaib started Queerty. A market watch report from 2005 tells us: Queerty is published by 21-year-old David Hauslaib. He also owns Jossip.com, self-described as a "big bag of rumors" about celebrities and show business in New York. A flurry of gay and lesbian blogs would soon follow. For the casual reader information was now available and packaged in short Entertainment Weekly bites that invited a conversation with the reader, something magazines didn't really do. What few suspected about this phenomenon was that everyone wanted in on the act. A blog took work, a lot of work: daily scouring of the news and Internet for tiny morsels of gay-related information. Once presented, a comments column would allow readers to voice their opinions. And this is where the trouble started. A blogger could be held responsible for their words, they were the author of the blog, that was a given. Comments on the other were anonymous, shielded by secrecy, and apparently, everyone had something to say. It wasn't just gay blogs, political blogs in particular would begin with a responsible topic only to conclude in a cavalcade of bitch fights, no one really listening, just opining. Somehow, in our delusional minds, we must have thought gay men might be nicer, after all, we were all in this fight for freedom and equality together, holding hands at vigils and lighting our united candles together.
Which is not to say that all intelligent conversation has been lost, it hasn't, it's just hard to discern. And unfortunately, people get personal. JustMe and LittleKiwi on Towleroad managed to go over forty comments on one story alone, usually about each other. And this was a fairly innocuous story about a new gay magazine called HelloMr.
In retrospect, magazines required effort, one had to actually lick a stamp and pray to get their opinion published, now it's all clicks and hide, and one can be as nasty as words will allow.
And we wouldn't change a thing. The fact is, this is who we are. We are exceptionally critical as a cultural group. We sharpen our tongues on a wide variety of subjects, sociological, political, sexual. Gay blogs and the Internet have revealed much. Never has there been a time in history when communication was so vast and expedient. We know more of the mind of a gay man or woman than ever before, not only through the thoughtful, often entertaining world of gay bloggers, but their audience. Just as know more about the intimacies of the sexual life of a person as revealed in cam websites such as cam4 and chaturbate. But we should be cautioned just as an appearance on one of those websites will reveal us, so too, do our comments on gay blogs.