WANKS FOR THE MEMORY Exhibitionism and Voyeurism abound on the website, as we get to peek into the world of what men and women do in private. Cam4 is a public website where anyone, if they want, can get naked and be seen, for free! There are men, women, she males, party people, couples, pros and every conceivable form of sexuality you can imagine, and that's just for starters. Every "member" is given a little introductory window, which is usually an image of whatever stage of nudity they are at. A little flag to the right presents what country they are from, so if you are fond of Italian men you can quickly look for the green white and red flag. Never has learning the flags of the world been easier! One's sexuality is also listed in the perfunctory, straight and gay and the neo-novel, "bicurious", which is means, anyone can take a look. Cammers can block potential stalkers with a quick click and there is a chat feature where one can type directly to the cammer and bark your particular demands ("Show us your hole!"). Many, many cammers are there to chat, as a stationary cam remains focused on a tank top, a hint of designer underwear or a formidable lower lip. Some leave their cam on as they sleep, wrestle with dark dreams or discreetly fondle themselves with what appears to be abandon. Some shower, inserts enemas, pull and tug at their foreskins or wildly exercise to the latest Lady Gaga tune in the background. It's all here. Needless to say, not everyone is on cam, the world is evenly divided between those who stroke and those who look.

And yet, not much happens.


Masturbation, as we have discovered, can take hours. Many cammers will slowly, slowly, slowly pull of their Australian designer underwear after many hours of scratching and tugging while a bevy of patient voyeurs persistently type for more (Show!"). The more viewers one has, the sooner you are put at the head of the list or the web page and it is not uncommon for as many as 2000 people to be focused on one particular cammer. And, if you are signed up with you can "tip" your imaginary lover with some imaginary money, or something like that. The young, of course, are the worst, as they instinctively understand their place in this visual world of sexual fantasy. Many, who presumably would like to be strippers, practice their art with a full show, often signing off abruptly as dance before an attentive public only to leave without notice. Some, though surprisingly not many, actually do culminate in orgasm. Generally, "edging" seems to be the most ubiquitous activity, and if you have a few hours to spend watching things go up and down, this may be the site for you. For some, it may drive you into the arms of sites like xtube for the simple ability to fast forward and rewind.

What does do, quite well, is remind us that men from all around the world are horny and to some extent, happy to show their prowess. And this may be the most interesting aspect of this site: it is international, so one is given access to an array of bodies and penises. Short, long, light, dark, cut, uncut, twisted, purple, brown, pink, polka dotted, fat, thin, soft or erected, they are all here. This may be the greatest sexual anthropological tool ever invented. Here are some of the more interesting findings: most men in the world are uncut (by many reports circumcised men are 10-15% of the population), the average male penis is actually fairly big. Latin men abound, Asian men will surprise you (cancel THAT myth); there are few black men. It is fairly divided 50/50 between straight men/gay men, and the "bicurious" tend to be under thirty. Most men do not shave or even trim their public hair. Cockrings are not universally popular. Some men have two holes in the head of their penieses. Some men are fond of inserting plastic devices into their bums. The general age is somewhere in the 30s and for the most part, men are fairly fit, though many a large man has been known to attract a lot of viewers, as have little people (dwarfs), cripples and people taken to wearing Halloweeen costumes early. It has even been reported that some have witnessed an enema spray.

This is not just martymachlia for a mere twenty years ago this kind of exhibitionism/voyeurism would have been nearly impossible. This is nothing less than a window, a glimpse into the rooms of people enjoying themselves, doing what they have always done, but now it can be seen by many.

Hardline or Hardtime?

    Screen shot 2010-07-02 at 11.04.49 AM A new gay social networking tool offers robust capabilities, including access to users of Hardline’s phone chat system. First Media Group Inc. has launched Hardline Mobile, the first gay social networking application for the iPhone to include voice greetings, voice messaging, and video messaging. Hardline Mobile is a social networking tool that connects men locally and nationally for chat, friendship, sex, dating, and relationships.

Downloaded from itunes or your iphone, you are asked to set up a profile and record a greeting. There is also a space to make your sexual preference, top, bottom, versatile, none, known. Hardline is not the easiest program to master. We uploaded a photo (it was a mannequin) and immediately received four phone messages from somewhere. It's hard to tell. There is something called iGuys, but it is never explained and on this day, there was only 39 people on nationally. The messages received were generally from men who purported where doing things with their enormous male appendages and the voices ranged from Michael Jacksonish to Carol Channing. This could be because the quality is not great. Once listened to, the message seem to vanish, to it's best to reply quickly if interested. One local message could not be heard at all. Their website suggests their are different sections, such as Sexual Encounters, Friendship and Dating, but we could not locate these. Hardline appears to be free, but their website solicits "package deals" ranging from 50 minutes for $10 to $120 for 1300 minutes for the more loquacious.

Hardline is clearly heading for the day when one will be able to make a video and send that off, or better, simultaneously make and watch videos. For now, it is a work in progress, the voice is a nice addition, but needs improvement.

Does Bisexuality Exist?

IDoBothbicaqrtoon14084341_l CNN recently ran a story, "The Last Person Out of the Closet? The Bisexual Male" which explores the controversy surrounding the heated topic of bisexuality. The initialism, LGBT, which stands for gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender, has been in use since the early 90s. The concept of bisexuality is simple: a man or woman is sexually and/or romantically attracted to both sexes. Here is where the confusion starts. It would seem that everyone can and most likely has been romantically attracted to the opposite sex at some point. It's the sex, that is the devil in the detail. There is also that other curious term, bi-curious. On a popular cam site, nearly half of the men identity themselves as bi-curious. This is another way of suggesting that you haven't had enough experiences to make up your mind. It's as if you graduate from bi-curious to bisexual. There are other terms for these kinds of attractions such as homoflexible. The CNN article addresses one couple, Robert and Christine Winn. It's unclear what is being said, as the writer says the couple boasts 18 years of monogamous marriage, though the husband is openly bisexual. One presumes this means he has same sex in his mind?

Bisexuality is a heated issue because many in the gay community believe that bisexuality really doesn't exist. It's an excuse and a way of avoiding the reality that one might be gay.

Most gay men in their late teens and early twenties identify with the concept of bisexuality because at that point, the signals the body and mind are sending can be confusing. It also is a way of softening the blow to curious parents when they begin to ask, "which way do you swing?" Bisexuality also has an indication of hypersexuality: you'll screw anything.

CNN reports that In 2005, a controversial study from professors in Toronto, Canada, and Illinois reported males identifying as bisexual were typically not aroused by both sexes. Most of the bisexual men surveyed were physically aroused by images of men instead of women, the study said.

The bisexual community is small: the CDC reports that about 1.8 percent of people ages 15 to 44 in the U.S. identify as bisexual.

No doubt sexuality is fluid, attraction is certainly not solely based on gender. It is an interesting subject for conversation including biphobia.

Gaydar explained, sort of...

"Gaydar," that innate ability gay people supposedly have to zero in on other gays even in a crowd, may really exist. 

When Dutch scientists examined how heterosexual and homosexual people focus their attention, they discovered gays are much more detail-oriented.

For the research, 42 gay and straight volunteers were presented with photos of outlines of large squares and rectangles. Each shape was packed with smaller shapes. Generally, the human brain is programmed to take in the larger picture, so when people see a rectangle-filled square, they're likely to say it is filled with squares.

When the men and women were presented with similar questions about the pictures they had been shown, the straight volunteers answered faster but were less accurate. The gay men and women, on the other hand, were slower to answer but were right more of the time, especially when they were asked about the smaller shapes.

This suggests they are able to hone in on even very small details as well as the bigger picture, according to the research, which appeared in the journal Frontiers in Cognition. In gays' daily routine, researchers believe, this close attention to detail could help them to detect others' sexual preferences.

"This is the first time that scientific proof has been found for the existence of a gaydar mechanism amongst homosexuals," researcher Dr. Lorenza Colzato of Leiden University in the Netherlands told the Daily Mail. "This perceptual skill allows homosexuals to recognize other gay people faster and we think it's because they are much more analytic than heterosexuals."

People who are naturally more perceptive and detail-oriented may have a greater chance of picking up on subtle clues in other people that they may be homosexual, which makes it easier for them to search out gay friends and sexual partners, the study found.

Horror! Shock! Twincest!

VGU0102P040056 Salon is running a story by Thomas Rogers that reveals his great revulsion at even the idea of gay twins having sex with one another: "They kiss passionately, jerk each other off, give each other blow jobs, and finally, in the grand finale, have unprotected anal sex with each other on a couch. The entire affair is disturbing not only because the sight of two identical-looking men having sex is, well, disconcerting, or the fact that they're doing so without protection against HIV -- but because the twins are either really good actors, or they really enjoy having sex with one another."

The twins are those are those crazy Peters twins from Europe, aged 19, who tell the story that this is not an act, they are indeed a couple. Mr. Rogers seems to possess a thorough knowledge of the fringe twin incest history in gay pornography. He even mentions the Westermarck effect, which has something to do with the fact that sibling sexuality is less repulsive than other forms such as mother-son. It should be noted that Mr, Rogers appears to have done his homework — he watched every twincest film while researching this story. Here is the story in it entirety:

Based on their YouTube channel, Elijah and Milo Peters just seem like your average, slightly awkward Czech teenage twins. They enjoy role-playing games and steak. They like frolicking around on the beach in their elaborately patterned underwear and taunting each other while bodybuilding. ("Hey you lazy-ee boy! Put some weight on eet!") But the Peters twins aren't quite as innocent as their goofy grins and adorable accents suggest. Story continues


Swan(s) in Love

Alg_swans Two homosexual swans nesting together in Britain for another year will surely join that chorus.
The two male swans have reunited for several consecutive nesting seasons, according to staffers at the Abbotsbury Swannery. 
"They have been together for several nesting seasons and basically keep territory as if they are a nesting pair," said Dave Wheller, who works at the swannery.
The pair are a familiar couple by now, and those who care for the birds report they have yet to show interest in breeding with any female swans at the bird sanctuary.
Manager John Houston has observed the devoted couple for many seasons.
"The swans have been nesting together like this for several years and they get together every nesting season and form a nest together," Houston said.
The two swans are unmistakably male, as the swannery's resident birds are sexed and tagged at birth.
Homosexual behavior is common across the animal world.

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Gay is "happy" to Slash

SlashCREDscottpenner Former Guns N 'Roses guitarist Slash has apologized for calling a Michael Jackson song 'gay'.

The musician was criticized when he said last week that the signature hook from Jackson's song Black or White was "gay." He is often mistakenly thought to have written it.

He told Canadian Music Week: "I never played on [Black or White]. If you listen to [the hook], that's gay. I'd never play that."

After reflecting on the remark, he told music website Spinner: "I thought about that afterward 'cause really that just came right out… now I think it sounded a bit too derogatory

"What I really meant was that the sound of the guitar is very happy. It just doesn't sound like me, anyone would know that. It's not the guitar sound you would expect from me, but somehow I got pigeonholed as the guy who played on that song."

Another Bible-toting Beauty Queen

Image6235747x Beverly Hills is next door to homo haven West Hollywood, so it was shocking when Miss Beverly Hills, Lauren Ashley revealed that "The Bible says that marriage is between a man and a woman," on FOX News. "In Leviticus it says, 'If man lies with mankind as he would lie with a woman, both of them have committed an abomination. They shall surely be put to death and their blood shall be upon them.' The Bible is pretty black and white."

Ashley's comments surface just months after former Miss California Carrie Prejean settled dueling lawsuits with state beauty pageant organizers amid her high-profile stand against gay marriage.

And like Prejean, Ashely stands by her words.

"I feel like God himself created mankind and he loves everyone, and he has the best for everyone," Ashley said to FOX News. "If he says that having sex with someone of your same gender is going to bring death upon you, that's a pretty stern warning, and he knows more than we do about life."

Is she in Beverly Hills or Uganda?

Ashley will be representing Beverly Hills in the Miss California pageant in November.

Conversion Therapy

Lifeleadmain_309507s The British Independent has a fascinating story about story about the small but evangelical world of psychotherapists that believe they can "cure" homosexuality. Writer Patrick Strudwick went undercover to see what the"cure" is all about:

In Britain today therapists are trying to convert gay men and women to heterosexuality. I know this, because for several months I infiltrated this network of therapists and put myself – a happy, "out" gay man – through treatment.

According to a report by Professor Michael King of University College London, one in six UK psychiatrists and psychotherapists have sought to reduce or change a patient's sexual orientation. And with the help of the American conversion therapy movement, practitioners here, along with a clutch of international "conversion" organisations, are becoming co-ordinated and unified. They plan to gain credibility, university backing and government funding. In some cases, the NHS is even paying for the treatment.

This is despite the fact that homosexuality was removed from the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual – psychiatry's glossary of conditions – 36 years ago. And despite much evidence that such practices are damaging and ineffective.

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Ronnie Kroell on the cover of Playgirl?

Ronnie Kroell Chicago, IL — Forget Levi Johnson, it seems Ronnie Kroell's chiseled body might be the next to grace the cover of Playgirl magazine. Sources tell, Kroell is in negotiations with Playgirl. Unlike Johnson, 26-year-old Kroell has agreed to full frontal nudity.  CP's Bill Pritchard was unable to confirm the speculation. "I haven't heard anything from Ronnie about it," said Pritchard. "We're damn close, but these days he's really living the life of a busy model and student in New York."The Chicago-native was the runner-up on Bravo's "Make Me A Supermodel," but it was Kroell's combination of good looks, charitable contributions and boy-next-door charm that earned him favor with the show's fans. "It sure says a lot that Playgirl would consider the gay-next door," said Pritchard. Kroell, from Chicago's Andersonville neighborhood, was the last remaining male model receiving the second most votes in the first season. One of the most played-up plot lines from the season was Kroell's "bromance" relationship with Ben DiChiara, his straight, married roommate in the models' house.After the show, Kroell was showcased on the September 2008 cover of Instinct Magazine, but this Playgirl opportunity promises to be a completely different pictorial.Kroell has since moved to New York City where he continues modeling and is a student. He also continues philanthropic ventures.  "Make no mistake about it, if he actually does do a shoot with Playgirl he will use it for good," concluded Pritchard. 


Ted Haggard ‘cured’ of gay urges, wife claims

Ted___Gayle_Haggard The wife of disgraced US pastor Ted Haggard says counseling has successfully freed him of his gay urges and made their marriage "better than ever".

Gayle Haggard appeared on MSNBC's Today program to say that her husband's therapy had given him the "tools" to deal with his compulsions.

The founder of Colorado's New Life Church, Mr Haggard was forced to resign leadership of the church and the presidency of the National Association of Evangelicals in 2006 after allegations emerged he had hired rent boys and taken drugs with them.

The evangelical preacher, who counseled George W Bush, was a vocal opponent of gay marriage but was plunged into scandal when prostitute Mike Jones revealed they had had an three-year sexual relationship.

Speaking to Today presenter Meredith Vieira, Mrs Haggard revealed that on the night her husband admitted some of the allegations were true, she allowed him into the marital bed.

She explained her decision: "Broken people need to be touched, and by reaching out, Ted was pleading for my help."

Mrs Haggard continued: “In Ted’s case, he had had some experiences as a child that kept replaying themselves in his mind. Once he went to therapy he was able to identify that and was given the tools to deal with it. Because of that, he no longer has those compulsions. That’s not true for everybody. That’s his story.”


10 Ways to Screw Over the Corporate Jackals Who've Been Screwing You

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Scott Thill provides 10 great ways to take back control of your life and finances. Some of the reasonable suggestions are unplug your cable: "there's no holy reason you shouldn't be able to subscribe to a channel package of your own choosing." Kill your landline (you know, that little Magic Jack actually works), get rid of credit cards, and avoid other plastics like CDs and DVDs and bottled water. Read the story here.


Celebrity Penis Quotes

Rumor has it, Jesus Luz, Madonna’s current Brazilian boy toy, is rocking an uncut member, Shia LaBeouf confessed to Playboy that he isn’t well-endowed, and Jared Leto reportedly has the biggest (living) dong in Hollywood.

“I remember putting a pillow underneath her because I had seen that in a porn movie. It put her at a weird angle, where I couldn’t get in correctly. I’m not extremely well-endowed … and clearly this wasn’t the move. —Shia LaBeouf in Playboy

“I said I had a small penis as a joke. And they took it literally when it is not the truth. So when people find out it’s not the case they are pleasantly surprised.” —Enrique Iglesias

“I know the reason that it was cut out was that it just wasn’t right. If anything, it’s a beautiful, gentle moment and a f**king large c**k with huge balls, is just f**king jarring.—Colin Farrell on why his nude scene was cut out of “Alexander

“He’s not very well-endowed. If you’re going to have sex with Marshall, make sure you have a little blue pill, because otherwise it does not work.”
—Kim Mathers on her ex, Eminem

“Nick’s small package was a problem sometimes, like the first time we had sex, to tell you the truth, I didn’t really feel much, I faked the whole thing, I really felt sorry for him, I still loved him though.” —Jessica Simpson on her ex-husband, Nick Lachey

“I had a penis implant!” —Robert Pattinson on his nude scenes for “Little Ashes”


"I'm Bi-Sexual and Can Prove it!"

From merry old England and The Bisexual Index comes this card that "allows you to shut down the tired old "you're not bisexual" discussion before it really starts!" In the event you're not sure you should carry the card, this is how they define it: "A bisexual is someone who is attracted to more than one gender. You might care about the gender of your partner a lot, a little, or not at all - but their gender doesn't prevent you from being attracted to them."
But remember, no renewal is required.

The Bareback Porn Studio That Chose Fighting HIV Over the Bottom Line

"There is a window period between an individual becoming infected with the HIV virus, and that individual showing up positive in an HIV test. During the window period, the infected individual can transmit the virus to others during unprotected sexual intercourse.
Max Lincoln, the CEO of porn studio Eurocreme

We're going to have to take someone's word for it that the gay porn industry is a "multibillion" dollar business, because haven't XTube and its kin completely deflated the ROI of two-or-more guys screwing on screen? But accepting that overall valuation, it's the condom-less gay porn niche that makes up a huge chunk of that business. But at least one porn company is putting morals on a higher shelf than dollar bills — which, last we checked, is bad for business — and has exited the bareback biz. Not that it plans on insisting competitors do the same. The story continues at:


Stonewall: A History Lesson

Astoner The Stonewall Riots

“When did you ever see a fag fight back? Now, times were a-changin´. Tuesday night was the last night for bullshit.
Predominantly, the theme was, ‘this shit has got to stop!’" — Anonymous riot participant, from David Carter’s book, “Stonewall: The Riots that Sparked the Gay Revolution”

Up until 1 a.m. on June 28, 1969, it had been an ordinary evening at the Stonewall Inn. But a surprise raid — patrons were usually tipped off — changed everything. At first, it was a raid as usual: patrons lined up at the bar, drag queens were separated and liquor was seized.

But then a person or multiple people decided that enough was enough. Theories vary on what the fuse was. All witnesses acknowledge that some extra spark of outrage lit a powder keg of emotion.

As people were being led out of the bar to a police wagon, a scuffle ensued. Patrons did not simply disperse; they stayed in the street shouting at police. Coins were thrown at the cops, a symbolic reaction to the practice of “gayola,” or gay bars paying off the police to prevent raids.

Tension mounted, and homeless gay teens from Christopher Park across the street joined in the melee. Violence against the police intensified and they were forced to barricade themselves inside the Stonewall Inn, waiting for backup.

As the reinforcements arrived and began marching down the street to scatter the protesters, they were suddenly faced with a kick line of drag queens, dancing and singing:

“We are the Stonewall girls,
We wear our hair in curls,
We wear no underwear,
We show our pubic hair,
We wear our dungarees
Above our nelly knees!”

The riot was eventually quashed that evening, but over the next five nights, protests and riots of various sizes occurred in the neighborhood and beyond. As word got out in the press, the crowds grew. The riots ceased after July 3, but the camaraderie that they created evolved into something else, something that lasted.

After Stonewall

"Let it forever be remembered that here — on this spot — men and women stood proud, they stood fast, so that we may be who we are, we may work where we will, live where we choose and love whom our hearts desire.” — M. John Berry, assistant secretary of the Department of the Interior, at a 1999 ceremony honoring the addition of the Stonewall Inn to the National Register of Historic Places.

Before Stonewall, conservative gay rights groups like the Mattachine Society had been trying to win rights and social acceptance by holding quiet, dignified pickets in cities like Philadelphia. The Mattachine’s method of operation was to try to show the world that gays were not different, but its efforts made little progress. In the span of a few nights, angry gays and drag queens made more progress by showing the world the exact opposite. The message they sent was, “We’re not like you, we look like this, and we’re not going to hide any more.” Gay rights advocacy groups learned that they were more likely to gain rights by being out and about, and the era of gay pride marches began.

One year after Stonewall, the Christopher Street Liberation Day March was held — the mother of gay pride marches. Two years hence, marches spread across the nation and into Europe and membership in gay rights groups skyrocketed across western nations.

The first gay march in Michigan happened in 1971. In 1989 — the 20th anniversary of Stonewall — the Statewide Pride March moved to Lansing and has since been an annual event.

As the application to the National Register of Historic Places points out, the Stonewall Riots were to gay rights what Rosa Parks was to black rights, or the Boston Tea Party was to the American Revolution. Yet this critical event isn’t discussed in American history textbooks and isn’t included in the curriculum of public schools. The lucky few who take a human sexuality or civil rights class in college might learn about Stonewall.

Calvin Klein ad too suggestive?

A new Calvin Klein ad in New York City is creating a brouhaha in certain circles because of the apparent age of the models and the suggestive "orgy" atmosphere in the picture. As one reporter in the Louisville Kentucky Examiner asked: "Many have asked today; just who is the girl in the ad? And is she over the age of 18? Because what is portrayed on the billboard is highly closely related to child pornography. Some are speculating that she is likely under the age of 18 and Klein will have no choice but to remove the ad and charges could likely be filed against the clothing manufacturer for contributing to child pornography." Oh my!

Shot by Steven Meisel, the lightning-rod photographer behind Madonna's 1992 book Sex, Calvin Klein's print and video campaign appears online at

Censored adaptations of the ads will appear later this year in North America, while Europe -- long known for sexually liberal advertising -- will see the unedited versions.

With their hidden-camera esthetic and resemblance to pornography, the new ads are evocative of a 1995 campaign by the company that drew a probe by the Federal Bureau of Investigation into whether Calvin Klein Inc. had violated child pornography laws. (The models weren't minors, so the Justice Department found no statutes had been broken).

Sex Sells.

School for Scandal

Milk screenwriter Dustin Lance Black, is feeling the heat after pictures of him allegedly having sex, were posted online.  The racy images were apparently sold to a photo agency by Black’s former lover. published the racy pics; the gossip site even claims there may be video of the incident which may have taken place back in 2006.  The steamy shots show two men performing unprotected anal and oral sex.
Recently a book "And Then There's This: How Stories Live and Die in Viral Culture", by Bill Wasik, attempts to understand our ravenous need for information:

With so many different mediums, why do they all seem to follow these same stories? At the end of the day, why does anyone care so much about this random singer that none of us have ever met?

That relates to the "Long-Tail" -- the idea that the Internet will allow us to splinter off into a lot of smaller niches. The Internet does allow for smaller and smaller communities of interest that have more and more intense likes for shared things. But I also think one great value of culture for us is that we like to have something to talk about with each other. And so, you might have a great love for some very, very obscure form of heavy metal and on the Internet you can find all the other 5,000 different people around the world who like this very particular heavy metal music. But it's also true that if you go to high school or if you work in an office or if you have sort of friends out in the real world, you're going to want to engage with them in the shared stuff of mass culture. Mass culture continues to exist precisely because it's the stuff of cultural exchange among ourselves. And so, that to me is the reason why you have 10 million people becoming obsessed with Susan Boyle instead of 10,000 people. Precisely because she becomes grist for this bigger conversation.